I did an experiment recently to see people’s reaction to certain appearances. I decided to conduct it at a Starbucks that I frequent on the regular to either do work or chill. The first time I dressed in dark denim jeans, a v-neck and a hoodie. I minded my own business on my laptop and just kept to my own unless someone came up to me, talked to me or what have you. For the most part people were polite and respectful, but kept to their own. The occasional person would nod, smile, while a few started a conversation with me. The second time around I went to the same Starbucks at relatively the same time. I was going to go to my friend’s birthday afterwards so I was dressed up a bit. I’m not the best dressers nor do I have Hollywood good looks but I do what I can. I was wearing a charcoal suit, blue patterned dress shirt, black dress shoes and a silk black tie. I minded my own business just like the first time but this time the interaction was increased many times over. There were much more nods, smiles and people striking up conversation. At least three times more people interacted with me just based on my appearance. It’s not conclusive but for the most part, what you look like, how you dress, and how you carry yourself and your overall appearance can affect people’s interaction to you. I honestly wish it wasn’t like this. That people didn’t assume or judge how approachable you are just on the way your appearance. I’m still the same person but I’m dressed differently, so why interact differently? Why can’t we just get to know each other through personality versus the initial appearance. Don’t get me wrong, I am guilty of judging someone before getting to know them but after this experiment I am going to do my best to be more open. I wish there was a magic indicator of how many times you made someone smile, made someone laugh, or the last time you did a random good deed. I wish people were less judgemental and went off of people’s character instead of their appearance. I don’t know if anyone sees what I’m getting at or if anyone agrees but I think the world would be a much better place if we were all a little more open minded and not judge people just on appearance.
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